Happiness in Marriage

by Suhana Sadique
(Alappuzha, Kerala, India)

To me, the personal relationship between a husband and wife is the basis for a happy life. This is conditioned by being compatible and having matching personalities. When there is mutual adaptation there is stability, and like a building, a marriage becomes a structure with strong foundations.

I believe that husband and wife should have freedom of choice and accept each other as they are to become good partners in marriage.

I understand that there must be personal adjustments and that these can sometimes be complicated; but the mutual goal should be:

1. Becoming good partners by listening to each other, and...
2. Being respectful in times of disagreements.

I think that when a marriage fails is essentially because there has been a failure to listening to each other and being respectful to each other.

I believe that problems in the area of confidence and trust are more serious. When one partner is dishonest, the whole family becomes a conspiracy filled with intrigue. Where there is mistrust there is suspicion, and out of suspicion comes resentment. And from resentment, conflict develops.

This is why I say that listening, being respectful and sharing is the basis for a good happy marriage. When there is sharing of problems and situations, the partners can help each other and this affects the attitude of both in a positive way because they are helpful to each other.

Openness in sharing and discussing what is lacking in a relationship is the first step for a happy marriage. Then, some agreement can be made.

I base my happy marriage to communicating with my husband and his sharing with me when something is bothering him. This reflects in our happy family and makes me feel proud of my relationship.